Avoid counting the days you haven't been in touch and know that you're more than that. It's more than just trying to keep track of how long you've been able to remain quiet. Rather than waiting for others to reach out to you, you are here. To reach out to you, you don't need them.
You should fill it on your own with any love or space that is left. What you need, you should give yourself. Feel thankful for the time they have spent with you and look to the future when a person has decided to withdraw themselves from your life. Failure is not passion. Without something externally validating you or appreciating you, you will feel good and be happy.
The more you feel hurt and lost from the loss of the presence of another and the tangible expression of love they gave you is an even greater signpost for learning a lesson. The genuine, true love comes from inside, and through your own strength, you can feel this way.
Why would we waste so much time putting our energies into something else that would make us feel good? Any time we see them dress up to receive the one compliment or we begin to work out more, they know the we take care of our bodies.
In our lives , people are transient, but you'll always be with you, so begin the relationship with yourself. Send those congratulations to yourself and make the effort for YOU.
It doesn't have to be that the only time we feel truly special is when we are raised by someone else's love. It's inaccurate and sometimes it comes from you validating their ego externally as well.
You don't love each other, you just love how it feels to be together, but inside yourself, you can't find the affirmation. You're faced with a dilemma when a relationship ends and you didn't want it to; the pain is too much to bear, and so we feel we have to take action to numb the pain.
You want to do something, something, to change the feeling, whether it's continuously reaching out to them so that they don't have to deal with life or maybe jumping right into another relationship, drinking, or drinking too much. There's one thing in common with all these actions: they are escapism.
They run away from a problem, and they do not embrace it. You need to Experience the pain to acknowledge what has occurred. Because that's your reality, and that's really where you are. It's the lesson you've been running from your whole life. Please accept it.
You have to feel it, embrace it, understand that there is no going forward without this phase, there is no journey, there is no improvement, to leverage real positive progress from a time of deep pain inside yourself. Every time you feel unworthy in your life without that person, you sit in stagnation that doesn't allow you to move forward.
When you become profoundly attached to someone, the air supply becomes their validation and you wonder how without it you breathed. But you did. Years and years were before them, and years and years will follow them. We are human, we adapt, we alter, we adjust.
If you can embrace the affirmation of another so freely, so readily change your processes to rely on the love of a person and not your own, then you can change it again. You can recall that you lived before them, you cared before them, what it was like to have your own back.
What will set you free is knowing and accepting the true meaning behind the end of a marriage, and you will know that you are the only one who will not cut off the air supply of love, adoration, and affirmation. Take it from yourself, then, because that's true. That's courage, and that's the unconditional support you want from someone else.
It is so intoxicating to fall in love and we fall in love with ourselves. The companion we meet holds up the mirror and points out to us all the things about our appearance, inside and out, that we did not know or could not embrace.
You start thinking that there is elegance and attraction about who you are because you are told by someone that there is.
But what about the days when it's not there? Or do they not, do they worry about their own issues, or do they need you to confirm them, too? We suddenly wonder if our beauty and attraction is real when the relationship ends, because we don't have the person to experience and affirm it.
We can also feel that our whole life is doubtful and worthless because we have relied so heavily on another to authenticate us, to prove that we are adequate for us.
I'm here to tell you that there's no reason for it to be this way. You've agreed that only someone outside of you can make you feel stuff like that. That was a subconscious choice you made. It is not a law that can not be broken; it is not the truth either.
It is a subconscious barrier that has been built up by you that says, "I am nothing before someone else tells me that I am something," and then the question arises: if you put this rule in place, can it be taken away? Is it possible to be questioned?
And there's absolutely yes to the answer. If you don't want to feel like your justification for living is for another guy, then amend the law. Dig deep into the origins and take them all out of the universe and make new ones and develop new values.
Decide today that you are the source of your happiness, that you can tell yourself that you are amazing, that you are the individual who says that I exist, that I matter, that I am valued, that I am whole. True love is this. It is infinite, and it will be there for you always, always. Because you are.
(Thought Catatlog)
